Permissive Parenting Style
There are two main words that describe the permissive parenting style.
These words are non-directive and indulgent.
Most permissive parents end up regretting their parenting choice as their child grows older.
These parents believe that their main goal as parents is to make sure that their child feels loved.
This should be done above all else and often means that permissive parents forego discipline in favor of showing their child love.
Rather than being parents to their child, the permissive parenting style teaches parents to be friends.
This does allow them to have close relationships with their child and their children do know that their parents love them.
One of the biggest mistakes that permissive parents make is that they do not make their children adhere to rules.
Instead of making their child do something they will ask, and then they will reward their child.
Sometimes they might even find themselves bribing their child because they have no other way to get them to do what they want.
Signs of Permissive Parenting
• The parent always responds to their child even when their child is interrupting or doing something inappropriate for attention.
• The parent does not make any demands on their child.
• The parent always accepts their child.
• The parent does not require their child to be responsible for anything.
• The parent accepts their child’s natural impulses.
• The parent does not say no.
• The parent sets no boundaries.
• The parent does not make restrictions on things.
• The parent does not set goals for their child.
• The parent allows the child to control their behavior.
How the Child of a Permissive Parent Develops
• Children are often impulsive.
• Children often have issues with aggression.
• Children lack the independence that they need to survive.
• Children often change who they are to fit in.
• Children do not have a sense of self.
• Children are not self-confident.
• While children are close to parents when they are young, they are often angry with parents when they become adults.
• Adult children blame their parents for their problems.
• Adult children do not know how to accept responsibility for their actions.
• Children never believe that anything is their fault.
What Can You Do to Change
Permissive parents can change. There are some tips to being able to make those changes.
• Start slowly with the expectations.
• Explain why things are changing to your child.
• Reason with your child and explain that there will be consequences.
• Make your child responsible for certain things.
• Start to make your child responsible for their behaviors.
• Do not allow your child to manipulate you or make you feel bad.
• Remind your child that you love them but that you are a parent.
• Define your role as a parent to your child.
While changes will feel impossible in the beginning, over time, they will be natural.
They will help your child to grow into an active and healthy adult who is capable of caring for themselves.
I will briefly discuss some of the results of permissive parenting.
You don’t want your child to grow up to be an adult who needs to get his way all the time, and who gets frustrated when he doesn’t.
To me parenting is mostly about guiding your child into maturity.
You don’t want your child to think that happiness is about getting what you want, or they will just try and get one thing after another.
And we all know that doesn’t lead to happiness You don’t want your child to become an adult who lets people walk all over them.
You show them how to avoid that by not letting them walk all over you.
In a respectful way.
How you interact with your child is the biggest lesson your child gets on how to interact with others.
You want them to grow up to be a mature adult who can have emotions without having a tantrum, or stuffing the feelings deep down only to have them come back out later.
They need practice at not getting their way, and learning to manage the emotions that result from it.
They also need to feel secure, like someone is looking out for them.
They need the security of knowing that if they go too far, you will stop them, for their own good.
If they don’t have that sense, they will be stressed out, scared.
Because they really don’t know where they are going.
They will push you to see if they can get that sense of security until they get it, or until you lose it, and yell at them to stop.
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