Four Baby Care Snippets Every Parent Should Know
New parents face many problems and issues that they are expected to understand and deal with immediately. Unfortunately, new-borns do not come with an instruction book so here are a few topics that you may need to know about.
New parents face many problems and issues that they are expected to understand and deal with immediately.
Bathing your baby: Until your baby’s umbilical cord falls off one to two weeks after their birth, only give them sponge baths. A cotton ball or cotton swab dampened with alcohol can help to dry the umbilical stump or follow your paediatrician's directions. After the stump falls off, you can give him a bath in a sink or shallow tub.
Circumcision does not cause long-term emotional problems for your child.
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is a frightening fear for most mothers.
SIDS is often referred to as crib death, and is the sudden death of an infant who stops breathing. It is rare, affecting less than 2 in 1000 infants in the US, but the fear of it plagues all new mothers.
Many studies have been done regarding SIDS. Although the cause of SIDS has not been definitely defined, there are some correlations that have been made between SIDS and the following things:
Male babies are more likely to die from SIDS than females
Prematurity makes it more likely
Minority children are affected by it more often than non-minorities
More children of young, single mothers die from it
Children who live in a home with one or more smokers are more likely to be affected
Some people say that sleeping with your baby can reduce the risk of SIDS, but the American Academy of Pediatrics disagree with this statement and go on to say that there is a greater risk of SIDS in babies who co-sleep.
Back sleeping is what most paediatricians recommend for babies to decrease the SIDS risk.
The reason for this is widely debated between health experts. If you have concerns, talk to your paediatrician.
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is rare, affecting less than 2 in 1000 infants in the US, but the fear of it plagues all new mothers.
Who needs to be worried?
SIDS was once thought of as random, striking healthy babies, which made it all the more frightening. But, in reality, there are some things that can indicate that a baby is at a higher risk for SIDS. The first is any baby that has previously had an episode where he has turned blue or had to have breathing revived.
Premature or low birthweight babies are more susceptible. In addition, mothers who have had poor prenatal care or smoked during pregnancy are more likely to have a child with SIDS. Children with diagnosed heart or lung conditions are also at risk, and boys are more susceptible than girls.
So, what do I do?
First and foremost, take care of yourself during pregnancy and don’t smoke. Have regular prenatal doctor’s visits, and follow your doctor’s recommendations. Secondly, put your newborn to sleep on his back, or his side. There does seem to be a connection between SIDS and babies who sleep on their stomachs, particularly if they sleep on a soft mattress. Don’t put unnecessary items, even blankets in the crib with the baby, and don’t let him get overheated. Learn infant CPR – so you are prepared in the event you need to resuscitate your child.
What if my baby has had an episode?
If your child has an episode – stops breathing or turns blue, notify your doctor immediately, even though you were able to revive him. Your doctor will want to run tests, and, if he fears that the baby is likely to have another episode (though 95% do not) he might suggest a monitor for the baby. These monitors will alert you in the event the baby stops breathing, but are only used in high risk situations. The monitors are quite cumbersome, and tend to have lots of false alarms, making Moms even crazier.
When Can I Stop Worrying?
The threat of SIDS is over once your child reaches his first birthday, and declines dramatically once he is six months old. In fact, most SIDS deaths happen between the ages of two and four months.
Take some precautions, but unless your baby has an elevated risk, remember that SIDS is actually rare, and is not something to obsess over.
Helping Children Build Self-Esteem
The child's growing up years is very crucial as this stage is formative and will set the overall personality of the child as he heads towards adulthood. That is why, as much as possible, children should develop healthy self-esteem during childhood years.
Positive self-esteem would certainly be a child's asset as he moves on the journey and conquer the world's many challenges. Take note that children who have healthy self-esteem tend to succeed when facing life's negative pressures and conflicts.
Low self-esteem transforms children to become individuals who are frustrated and anxious about how the world works. Such children tend to become societal problems and deprive themselves of the many opportunities that may otherwise come their way.
Children with low self-esteem also become apparently self-critical, withdrawn, depressed and passive. They tend not to become open to challenges and natural changes and underestimate their own capability.
Before attempting to help children develop positive self-esteem, it is imperative that you first know the nature and meaning of self-esteem.
Self-esteem is self-perception and is the set of beliefs and feelings one has about him or herself.
Self-esteem is directly implicated with confidence and fighting spirit; the very significant factors that help every individual accomplish tasks and head towards achievement.
Psychologists emphasize that self-esteem begins to be manifested early in life. As a toddler, you may probably remember the sense of achievement you attain when you start learning how to stand or how to reach for objects.
It is important to note that one achievement would pave the way for another achievement. As life goes on, those accomplishments become parts of a chain that define the overall personality of a person.
If the child develops low self-esteem, he may tend to be critical of himself and doubt his ability, leaving him to just sit and not exert effort to achieving any other attainments. Such a situation is truly dangerous.
In contrast, children with high self-esteem exhibit boldness and courage to keep on trying to achieve goals. They are not afraid to try, even fail. They treat failures as learning experiences that would be of great help to achieve many other goals in the future.
Here are several simple tips on how you, as a parent, could help foster high self-esteem in your child.
Be careful of what you say. Sometimes, people tend to say out loud expressions that may be taken as comments on people. If you say something bad after learning what your child did or failed to do, like 'stupid', s/he may retain that and tag himself as stupid.
Remember, children are very sensitive to the words their parents say to them.
Try to be as positive and praise your child for any achievement, be it simple or great, he may attain.
Helping children build self-esteem
Set a good role model.
Children will always look up to you as a model, so try to act as appropriately as you can, especially when they around. They would tend to imitate your manners and deeds, so be extremely careful in setting out examples.
Be affectionate. Aside from moral and emotional support, experts assert that children need to be loved. Remember, you can never boost your child's self-esteem without making it clear to him that he is unconditionally loved. Another point, if the child perceives that his parents do not leave, he might start wondering, who else will?
That would make him feel insignificant.
Give praise. Praise your child whenever he does good deeds or achieves a simple goal. Be lavish in praise and subtle and constructive in criticism. For example, if your child fails a math test, tell him you are proud that he made his best instead of putting pressure by saying that he should have done better.
Make the home his sanctuary, his source of nurturing and love. To do so, make sure you and your spouse do not stage a fight in front of the child.
A child who may witness ugly encounters may tend to be depressed and become withdrawn, leading him to a lower self-esteem.
If you think you cannot easily and effectively handle that, try seeking advice and professional help from a child or family counselor.
Do not hesitate to do the best you can to develop healthy self-esteem in your child.
It is your responsibility to raise him to become a good and achieving individual in the future.
Don't Forget to Praise Your Child
The Long-lasting Rewards of Encouragement: Don’t Forget to Praise Your Child!
How can we explain why there are kids who grow up lazy, timid, and very shy, with lots of insecurities and without self-respect? They grow up rude and don’t even respect elders including their parents as well.
How about those kids who lack intelligence?
No matter what you do, you have already provided all the books that he need, enrolled him in a good school and tutored him almost everyday, but still he has no interest in education! Why is this?
If, for instance, you are a parent who experiences this kind of dilemma, maybe you should ask yourself why! Perhaps, the fault is in you! Examine your relationship with your child. Are your efforts enough? Maybe not!
Studies have shown that those kids who normally excel in school are those who experience an abounding love from their parents. They are the ones who are well disciplined in school, healthy and lively! They are friendly, playful, and obedient and know how to respect elders.
Parenting is a big factor by which children are moulded the right way.
However, different people have different ways of showing love and care and others are very authoritative while some are not.
In parenting you should consider both being authoritative and gentle at the same time. As a parent, you should also learn how to be consistent in carrying out rules to your children. By this way, you’ll be able to inculcate in your child a sense of respect.
However, you need not always demonstrate a very strict attitude, to the point that your child becomes intimidated. It is also important that you let him practice his own authority over things. Just don’t forget to guide him. And whether he succeeds in his decisions or not, always praise him!
Regular praise and encouragement help a child develop self-esteem and confidence. These two factors determine why children succeed in whatever endeavour they are in, whether in academics, sports, music and arts.
As a parent, you feel so fulfilled when you see your child stand out, right?
But, it is not a good reason to always push your child to excel in academics if he is not good at it. The best thing to do is continuous encouragement and guidance.
Take note that not all kids have the same learning capacities.
One research about grade school students, who came from different socio-economic settings, showed that children do succeed in such activities if they are praised.
This study has emphasized that praises would not only mean recognizing their ability and performance towards their work but also their efforts to do it.
As one psychologist quoted – when you only pay tribute to the achievements of your children without seeing their effort and eagerness, you’ll put them to eventual frustration when they fall short of doing well.
Always remember that kids feel a sense of belonging by how their parents communicate certain words and actions.
They understand the relevance of doing their best by how the parents respond and react with their works.
They also learn how to cooperate outside their homes as they experience some domestic responsibilities within the family.
How to Create a Competitive Child
Creating a competitive child is an enduring process included in the pursuit of good parenting. It is impossible to motivate and train a child overnight.
Certain values and standards are understood and applied through the process of internalization and constant reminder.
It is not bad to constantly remind your children about doing their homework, just don’t sound like you are nagging them.
A competitive child is determined by his or her self-esteem and confidence. You can say that your child is competitive when he or she genuinely believes in his or her capabilities. It will definitely show in his actions and responses.
Children usually acquire self-esteem from the influence of the parents. It can be genetically acquired or learned through training and education.
If the parents don’t have confidence, there is a possibility that the children would not have it also. However, it can be developed through proper training, reminder and encouragement.
How can you promote confidence to your child?
You can simply do this by letting him know that he belongs in the family.
Showing unconditional love would assure him that he is part of the family.
Let him learn to do new things.
Allow him to participate in some household chores.
This way, he will learn how to contribute responsibly, thus will make him more confident when tasked to do things on his own.
As you follow these simple steps, you’ll see a remarkable difference.
You will notice that your child becomes more confident in doing schoolwork. Eventually, you will reap the benefits of seeing your child succeed in his life.